Archive for December, 2009

ABC 25 Days Of Christmas FAIL!


ABC Family Jack Frost!

DC Passes Gay Marriage

Washington D.C., our nation’s capital, passed gay marriage overwhelmingly today. The law is expected to go into effect around March 2010.

The irony was that former D.C. Mayor Marion Barry was one of 2 people to vote NO. He made this long speech about how his commitment to gays and lesbian is deep and long known, but he still voted no because he feels his CONSCIENCE says so, and the people in his ward do not want this . . . and he thinks marriage is so very sacred, a covenant between two individuals between their God and state (this is what he said!)

Oh Marion . . . you are still a joke, and the people who elected you AGAIN are a joke. Growing up in Northern Virginia, I still remember the night you got busted and everyone watched you high as a kite arguing with a crack whore you picked up off the street. “Bitch set me up! Bitch set me up!” This is what you screamed as you were busted, while you were mayor and while you were in that sacred covenant of marriage.

A Christmas Carol: The Complete Cartoon Version!

OMG OMG OMG ! THis is my lucky night on YouTube. I looked only a week ago and it wasn’t there, now it is. The complete classic API/CBS production of an animated Christmas Carol!

Part 1


Family Circus Christmas!

Following my “Noel” post, I just decided to google. And yes I found it! What I have yet to find though is a full version of the old cartoon scrooge special 🙁 There are only a few segmants of it on YouTube 🙁 Apparently CBS did/showed it years and years ago.

Anyway, onto “A Family Circus Christmas!” . . . . . shut up CB . . . .

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Noel! The Christmas Special!

I’m pretty sure I blogged about this special I used to love last year (in my yearly rants about ABC Family’s 25 Days of Christmas, which really are 23 days of crap movies). Anyway, someone put “Noel” on YouTube! It’s the animated cartoon about the Christmas ornament with a “happiness!”

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Post Note: My Christmas Special Post from last year mentioning this show 🙂

A New Baby Je . . . Woodstock Set!

I couldn’t pass it up . . .


Hoping For Snow . . . .

So the last few days Baby Jesus has sent in the cold . . . and more of his insane winds. I guess he felt I didn’t do up the outside of the house to the spectacle I did for Halloween, so he has to do what he can to ruin his own lights. The insane winds keep tangling the hanging snow flakes, which require me standing on the step ladder swinging a broom at them and looking like a nut to traffic. A few snowflakes blew up and onto the roof the other night! All but one have fortunately blown back down, and I’m trying to figure out how to get it down without the big ladder.

If it must be this cold and miserable out, I always say it should at least be snowing! This year, as with years past, I am wishing for a White Christmas. I joked on facebook it was a more likely wish than world peace, cause that would require nuclear Armageddon and the extermination of all mankind to happen.

So what else is going on . . . oh our washing machine is still broke! Yes one month later it is still not working right. Let me tell you, this has been a cluster $@#%@#$ of epic fail proportions. Sears home repair was supposed to come out last Monday, but said they called and nobody answered the phone so they didn’t come over. Ummmmm, yeah no. Oh and they called at 5:30 pm too, so they said. They were supposed to be here between 1 and 5pm, so even if they did call then, I had no obligation to still be here waiting! This is the second time they failed to show up for an appointment. Let’s not go into the fact they misdiagnosed the issue all together, selling me an expensive part CLEARLY not needed. John and I think we have finally nailed the issue, it has something to do with the draining, possibly the drainage hose. Something tells me that’s a 10 dollar part . . . I’m so fuming mad if they don’t offer to do something on Monday (when they claim they are coming again) I’m disputing the charges on my credit card and sending my card and Sears a lengthy letter detailing this crap! I should have known something was wrong from the first appointment when the repairman used the tips I got from googling on the net to diagnose the machine . . .

After Monday I head home to Virginia for the holidays. I still have not finished my Christmas shopping. Almost everything done though, just need to make decisions between a few possible gift ideas. Plus I like going to the malls in Virginia and walking around to get ideas. Tyson’s Corner has some of my favorite home decor stores where I can always find something fun (okay and sometimes tacky).

New Jersey Gay Marriage Vote Delayed . . . I Take Action . . .

I sent my letter off this morning, which my own mother actually proofed and emailed to me early this AM. I trimmed some of it out for length, and have already received a thank you from my assemblymen for the letter. I also called my senator’s office and talked to whatever staffer was there, saying I hoped the senator voted yes. They asked for my name and address if I was willing, and I was. I post on political forums under my own name and photo, I do not hide and hate cowards doing so under anonymity!

Unfortunately the Senate and Legislature has decided to delay the vote, which was set for tomorrow. They have no new date, and they say it’s so people can hear more testimony. I hope I am called to testify, I’ll give them a civil piece of my mind 🙂 However as of yet, nobody knows if it will go to vote before the republican governor takes seat, and he will veto the bill.

I have decided I will not be quiet anymore. I am currently making some makeshift signs this very evening with what I have in my house, and plan to stand on the corner of my very busy highway with them tomorrow during rush hour. Then I will later go to the craft store (oy a craft store this time of year!) and get better supplies for better signs. I will stand and protest during morning and evening rush hour every day possible till the bill is up for vote, and if it fails, even after. I’ll make people look at my face, and if they choose, throw rocks at me. I welcome it ironically, because it will show more people the ignorance that thrives in the hearts of men and women in our country.

BTW I’m tired of the whole slippery slope argument of child marriage and polygamy resulting from gay marriage. I have written up a whole post on that to be posted soon, showing the way marriage has evolved among STRAIGHT PEOPLE discredits those arguments as they are backsliding.

The quick sign I whipped up tonight to take to my street tomorrow 🙂 And yes it gets lots of traffic!

Photo on 2009-12-10 at 04.49

A DRAFT Of My Letter To My Representatives In New Jersey Re: Gay Marriage

Late last night, after hours and hours of debates and testimonies, the New Jersey Assembly approved of a gay marriage bill that now goes to the Senate on Thursday for a vote. Here in Jersey we have a new Republican Governor coming in that has made it clear, he’ll veto any gay marriage bill given to him. For many they see this as the last chance to get this past for anywhere from 4 to 8 years. Sure we could put it to a public vote, and while the tide is turning in favor of gay marriage each year, again it could be 5-10 years before the vote is in and people accept it and stop putting it back up for votes.

The following is a DRAFT of a letter I have written and am going to email off to my representatives. I am probably going to send it early tomorrow morning, after I have a chance to sleep on it and read it over one last time. It’s also pretty long, so in case they don’t feel like reading it, well I’m gunna call them as well and at least leave them a voicemail.

Dear . . . . . (my district Senator and two assemblyman’s names go here)

I am writing about the upcoming New Jersey senate vote on gay marriage, and should it pass the senate I know it goes back to the New Jersey assembly. Therefore this letter is being sent to all who represent District 6 in New Jersey government.

As a gay man who has been in a faithful and monogamous relationship going on 8 years now (statistically longer than most straights stay married!), this vote and this law is very important to me. I am writing to explain why that is, why it’s not only important to me, but to all of New Jersey.

Someone told me today (and a lot lately with this issue being in the media) “Why can’t you just have a ceremony, exchange rings and call yourself married?” I responded that I can paint my body blue, put on white shorts and call myself a smurf; but it doesn’t make it so. I want to be married and when I say I’m married know in my mind heart that it’s true. I’m not asking for anyone else’s acceptance, there are countless marriages in existence today that are not accepted or recognized by families, friends and even churches. However those people still know in their hearts and minds, they are married. Even if their church, friends or own parents refuse to acknowledge or accept their marriage, they know to each other they are married.

I want to be married because it is the ultimate commitment two people in love can make. I have forgone the civil union law for that very reason. People don’t get down on one knee to ask someone to civil union them. Why? Because a civil union simply a government contract. It’s not personal, it has no real meaning or feeling like marriage does. Marriage isn’t just about religion, you can get married and not be religious or attend church. It’s not just about benefits and rights, most people don’t enter into a marriage simply for the tax perks and health insurance. Marriage is about feelings, it’s about happiness, it’s about joy, it’s about love. Can those things be attached to a civil union the same way they can to a marriage? I would say no, and many heterosexuals prove that when they choose to get married in New Jersey rather than get a civil union, which is in fact an option open to them.

Many people have also said to me lately that New Jersey has more important things like the economy and job market to be dealing with rather than this gay marriage thing. I am a responsible tax paying citizen. I am so honest on my taxes that even my republican friends think I’m nuts. How many people can say they don’t cheat on their taxes? I currently have no debt, aside from a few credit card bills. How many New Jerseyans or Americans can say that? In fact I put myself through graduate school without taking a single student loan out! I’m good enough to be an educator in the University system, teaching New Jersey’s youth and the future of tomorrow, but I am not good enough to be married. I am a scientist who publishes and presents at local and national conferences, contributing to the preservation of the archaeology and history of New Jersey; but I am not good enough to be married.

My partner John Ebert’s family owns and runs Springdale Farms in Cherry Hill, the townships last working farm. He is also vice president and a vital one-third of the business. His business employees people in New Jersey. His business provides fresh locally grown food to people in New Jersey. John is good enough to provide jobs to New Jersey, to to contribute to the economy of New Jersey, to feed New Jersey; but not good enough to be married.

The farm also has a conservatory which is very popular for parties of all types, as well as weddings. John, who is also the farm’s florist among many other things, is always in demand to do arrangements for weddings. He’s so in demand that in recent years he’s had to turn away jobs because he doesn’t have the time with his other responsibilities. John can host weddings and do floral arrangements for weddings, just not his own.

So to those who say New Jersey has more important problems facing them right now than gay marriage, I respond with the following. We are the conscious tax payers of New Jersey. We are the educators of the future residents of New Jersey. We are the scientists preserving and keeping the history of New Jersey. We are the business owners employing New Jersey. We are the farmers feeding New Jersey. I would ask those who would deny me marriage, what contributions are you making to New Jersey? We can easily take our talents (and tax dollars!) and move to a state that supports us and our desire to be married. In doing so all we lose is the ability to call New Jersey home. What does New Jersey lose if we leave? Maybe to some just two residents living in moral sin, but to others two valuable residents contributing a lot to this state when it needs all the help it can get.

There are those who wish to make sure I as a gay man cannot marry, and they give a variety of reasons such as protecting marriage and tradition. However in all honesty, the rules of marriage for heterosexuals have been changed countless times over the years to better their situation as society and cultures evolved. The main reason for opposing gay marriage is and always will be the religious beliefs of some. A catholic priest and church is under no obligation to marry a couple who are atheists. Likewise a jewish temple probably won’t marry a couple who aren’t both jewish. However if the state of New Jersey used these very same reasons to deny marriage licenses to those same straight couples, they would be slammed with lawsuits that they were discriminating against and denying basic rights because of religious beliefs. I find it odd that the state can’t deny straight people the right of marriage based on religion or morals, but can deny gays marriage because of religion and morals. That is what makes denying gays the right to marry religious discrimination pure and simple.

If people want to really protect the sanctity of marriage, I’d advise them to look at themselves first. I can marry a complete stranger tomorrow if I choose, as long as they are of the opposite sex. Then I can file for divorce or annulment the following day. Plenty of drunk people do it all the time, just ask Britney Spears. How are they not damaging marriage? Then there are those like the late Anna Nicole Smith who marry men on their death beds for money. Where are the calls for laws protecting marriage from the likes of these people?

Let’s face reality, gays cannot marry in New Jersey and most of the US, so if marriage needs protecting, it’s not from two loving people who want to be committed to one another. We should start protecting marriage, if that really is what people want to do, by strengthening divorce laws and making them more difficult to get. At the same time how about making it more difficult to marry? I would suggest the same stringent laws that the immigration department uses in evaluating marriages between Americans and foreigners wanting to become citizens be used for all marriages. Of course my guess is the majority of Americans would not stand for this. It’s always easier when we call for laws that affect anyone but ourselves. It’s always easier to blame the other party as what’s wrong with X in America today, without working to change our own flaws and contributions to the problem.

R. Dustin Cushman

Christmas Decorating Humor . . . .

From my mom . . . yeah you know I want to do this!

Well, there is good news and bad news about my Christmas decorations this year

Good news is that I truly out did myself this year with my Christmas decorations. The bad news is that I had to take him down after 2 days. I had more people come screaming up to my house than ever. Great stories. But two things made me take it down. First, the cops advised me that it would cause traffic accidents as they almost wrecked when they drove by. Second, a 55 year old lady grabbed the 75 pound ladder almost killed herself putting it against my house and didn’t realize it was fake until she climbed to the top (she was not happy). By the way, she was one of many people who attempted to do that. My yard couldn’t take it either. I have more than a few tire tracks where people literally drove up my yard.

Kind of feel like I gave in to the man by taking him down but my neighbor did confirm to near miss accidents on the busy street next to my house. I think I made him too real this time

So it was fun while it lasted

Click on for the photo!