I have a meeting with my adviser next week to discuss the dissertation. Not really looking forward to making the trek into school to be honest, but I gotta do it. The dissertation has to be done and fully drafted by the end of September. I got a long road ahead of me and only 7 months to get’r’done. Time to go lock myself in that cabin in the woods . . . .
Spring can’t get here soon enough, because I have some serious spring cleaning that needs done! My “storage/guest room” where I keep a lot of my stuff is once again a mess. Every time I get it cleaned up it only seems to last about a month before it becomes a disaster. Unfortunately I’ve let this disaster build for a few months.
Somehow I cut the bottom of my tongue, which has lead to basically a canker sore under there. Words cannot express how much fun this is! Seriously, big fun . . . with the wretched.
The Oscars are coming up this weekend. Are you going to watch? I had commented earlier it would be fun to do an Oscar party. Well the BF found a party going on in Philly that has everyone getting together to watch the show while local gay celebs Chumley and Carlotta comment (ie make fun). We did this a few years ago and it was a lot more fun than watching the Oscars at home. We are thinking of doing this come Sunday . . . though I feel I should REALLY be home working! We will see when the day comes and how much I did this weekend.
I’ve been asked if we’ve applied for our civil union application . . . Yeah no. Unless you have been living under a rock, New Jersey begin granting them to gays and lesbian this week. I recognize it is important, a big step and valuable to people who really have a need to protect themselves and their partners. I just can’t get over my beef that if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, call it a duck. They claim it grants all (well 95%) of all right that marriage would, but they don’t call it marriage. They never gave a reason, one can only surmise religious reasons. I thought we didn’t make laws based on religion?
I believe they are set to review the whole thing in six months, basically to find out what problems have arisen from it. Even before the law went into affect there were stories of problems creeping up as people began making inquiries with insurance companies and the like. It will be interesting to see what happens during the review.
One ray of hope, the state has agreed that if gay couples are married elsewhere (even before the law took effect) then they will automatically be regarded as “civil union partners” in Jersey. I would prefer to go to Massachusetts and Canada and do it there, that way I could say I was married and actually knew in my heart it was true. Plus when the day comes when Jersey (and other states) finally grant the right, I wouldn’t feel the need to do it all over again. Yes to me the word is as important, if not more so, than the rights. I have no desire to say “I’m unionized.”
In more up beat news, only about an hour until the big “Grey’s Anatomy” finale to the three part February Sweeps show. I cannot wait, and they better not rain on my parade and kill of Meredith. I so can’t see them doing this, but my BF is not so sure. Oh and did you hear, they are giving Dr. Kate a spin off apparently. Not sure how I feel about that one yet.
Dustin
Yes come to Montreal and get married. We will set all the stuff you need and get you a great registry at The Bay…
Getting married is a personal choice NOT a political choice. We got married because we could, it was legal and we desired to be married. Don’t let political statements guide your love life. Then they have you where they want you…
Get married for the right reason, and demand from your government the same legal rights we get here in Canada. Damn those christian fundies…
Jeremy
i agree. this country has a law that seperates church and state, yet, everything is in god we trust. i know that new jersey didn’t call it a marriage because of religious reasons, which is wrong. they wanted to take “one nation under god” out of the pledge of allegience, yet they make laws based on religion. frankly it makes me sick that everyone is so afraid to give everyone equal rights. it took hundreds of year for blacks to get equal rights, years to allow women the right to vote. yet, a great document of our country starts “we hold these truths to be self evident that all men are created equal”. and yet not all men are equal. unfortunetly, it does not look like the country is changing any time soon since so many states put it in their constitution that marriage is defined at between a man and a woman. i don’t understand how they want to preserve the sanctity of marriage when a man and a woman don’t. people treat marriages at temporary now. 50 years ago, there was no such thing as a “starter marriage”. i’m going to stop here, before i go on and on. it just makes me sick how close minded people are. it makes me think of the senator in “brothers and sisters” who was on record as against gays, when in fact his brother is gay and he has no problem with it.
The coins and the pledge I think are frivilous lawsuits. It doesn’t actually say what god, that is up to you to decide.
However if you start saying well marriage is a religious institution only, therefore . . yada yada yada . . and start making laws governing it based on religion, well you run into the “which religion are we going to cite in this laws and what if someone else’s religion doesn’t agree” issue. That’s where I have a beef.
Now if people started introducing bills to say, ban divorce and make adultry punishable by jail, which would be great ways to protect the institution of marriage, the population would of course throw a huge screaming fit as it would be their rights on the line 🙂
I know I have mentioned this before but I think to call one thing a civil union and another a marriage is the equivilant of seprerate drinking fountains, seperate entrances and exits and seats on the bus. It is discrimination no matter how you paint it. I think that the legal union between ANY couple should be a “civil union” the marriage can be the ceremony done in a church, temple, theatre, park, bus depot, etc.
In CT there is (or was as of the 90’s) a Blue Law on the books that if you discovered your spouse had an adulterous affair, you could press charges and send them to prison. In ’90 or ’91, two separate people were prosecuted and jailed for it. The state didn’t really want to, but the law was still on the books so they had to! *G*