Since I know some might be wondering how things went today, as of yet nothing has happened. This of course doesn’t mean it won’t. From what I found out, John’s sister had a talk with the oldest and basically said “This is not to be discussed with your father, he doesn’t need to know you all know.” Even the oldest understood this reasoning, there are some things we just don’t tell him because it will cause issues and drama. If this can be avoided with the man, it usually is.

Now how long the kids will keep their mouths shut is not known. More than likely one of the other kids will mention something in passing, so IF he hears the comment (he’s really hard of hearing) then it will become an issue. More so when he figures out they’ve all had the talk and of course he was not involved and get to add his opinion. It’s his opinion that he didn’t get to drill into the kids that will be the biggest issue with him on this subject. Trust me, he will have words to say on this subject, and not kind ones.

Now I know many will say “These are his kids, he has a right to be involved and teach them the morals he sees fit.” Yes, but at the same time, you don’t know this man. He has grown children from the first marriage that are about John’s age, or a little younger. When John came out years ago, let’s just say he quickly turned all his kids against John. They apparently went from being very friendly with John to not even speaking to him. Earlier this year one of these kids got married and John was invited to the wedding, which was clearly just done to be polite. John was invited, just John, not John plus a guest. Yes they know about me too, and I’m sure all bad things they’ve gotten from their dad.

So when I said in my last post that he most likely would ban the kids from seeing me, ban them from our house, probably try and ban then from even hanging out with John; no I wasn’t kidding.

Oh we found out that the father, not long ago, gave the oldest son a book on politics to read. Knowing the father, it was probably one of those “How Liberals Are Destroying America” books. I asked John to find out the book, as I’m sure there is a whole chapter on the evil homosexual agenda.

As for the kids and how they are reacting. Well I saw the oldest briefly, all he basically said was “Hi.” He is at that stage where he’s pretty anti-social, he knows more than the adults around him, when adults speak they say stupid things. So I can’t say for sure if I was snubbed or not. He said hello to John too this morning, that was about it. The youngest of course is not phased at all. She was hanging all over me as usual, wanting us to go swimming in the pool. The middle child I haven’t seen all day.

In other news, I think I’m giving up on the vegetarianism, at least for a bit. Not because of a weak will, but because of the scale. I was at 158 last month, now after the boot camp and two weeks of eating crap, I’m up to 165. I’m not happy, I haven’t been this heavy since last May. In January I was at 155, last December I think I had gotten down to 148 (145 is my goal weight). I think it will be easier for me to drop pounds eating chicken and the various stockpile of lean cuisine’s in the basement. I’m just eating too much pasta and carbs with the vegie stuff. What I will NOT go back to is red meat though. That and McDonalds, Wendys, Burger King, etc . . . .

I also know once I get back into running the weight should come off pretty quickly too. I think I’m going to try and keep getting up on the earlier side as I had been and run in the morning to wake me up. Once alert, then I’ll be ready to put in my 4 hours minimum of writing that day.

4 Replies to “No Fireworks . . . Yet”

  1. I remember the wedding situation. I just have a hard time understanding some people’s reactions and attitudes. Good luck to you and John with this whole scenario!

    You and I share the same goal weight. I’ve been doing pretty good with the Weight Watcher’s, except for today. We went to Fuddrucker’s for dinner. I was going to get a salad, but caved and got a burger….it was worth it 🙂 I keep meaning to download the running program, but I always forget. Now with my knee acting up, I may hold off running til after the summer.

  2. Hang in there. Kids are great and think for themselves eventually. I married into a republican catholic family and things are pretty tough with the adults but the kids know who they like.

    What would be so terrible if you were living at johns expense? Just remember that who you are and what you share together is good and right and perfectly normal. No one but the two of you are allowed to judge your own relationship. It is the people who judge others who are wrong. It is a terrible situation but as long as you do what is right, and are true to each other, that is what matters.

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